Natural Beauty

For the most part I wear makeup everyday. I wear it because I'm a girly girl. It makes me feel sexy and it's something that I'm really passionate about. However, I don't feel as though I need the makeup to look beautiful. Not at all, I feel beautiful without it. So sometimes I just don't wear any.

Well a few weeks ago I went to a kid's birthday party, and I decided not to wear any makeup. After all it was at the park and I didn't think all the glam would be necessary.

No big deal, until my friend says...

"You look like you don't feel too good, and you look tired." Whoa! That was a slap to face, especially considering I felt fine, I wasn't tired and I was enjoying myself. At this point I had two options. I could either tell her I feel fine and that the reason why I look different is because I'm not wearing makeup (which is the truth, but might make her feel bad) Or I can lie and say I don't feel all that well. (which after her comment, isn't so much of a lie anymore) So thats exactly what I did, I lied. I said I didn't feel well and then I left.

Honestly, I was hurt by what my friend said, I thought that was so rude, but I also felt sympathy for her. I didn't want to make her feel bad for her ignorance. Later I found myself crying about it & I felt silly. Why did that hurt my feelings? She was obviously not trying to hurt me, she just doesn't know any better. She doesn't understand that what she said had hurt my feelings. I sat for a while and thought...Is that what people think when they see me without makeup? That I look sick and tired? Which is a terrible thought, because I am neither of those. I am healthy, happy and full of life. Then I looked in the mirror and saw a beautiful face, a beautiful smile and a beautiful soul. So why should someone's stupid remark make me feel insecure?

My beauty shines through whether I'm all glammed up or going all natural. So that brings me to the next question... Why did that shake me up so badly? I think its because up until three years ago, I didn't really wear makeup, ever. People used to see my face every day and no one ever said anything negative about it.  No one ever said I look tired, no one ever said I looked sick. However, now everyone is used to seeing me all dolled up, so when I'm not, they instantly think something is wrong.

To me it's so obvious that you should never comment on a woman's looks, unless you are doing so in a positive way. You don't comment on her weight, her looks, or her age. Those are just things you don't do and I thought that was understood by everyone, but apparently not.
So for those of you out there who are thinking about commenting on a woman's look in a negative way, think twice.

1. You come off as rude or uneducated.

2. You might hurt their feelings and make them doubt their self.
Just put yourself in their position, if someone were saying that to you would it make you feel good? If the answer is yes, then say it... if not then hold your tongue.

If you are a woman and someone has made comment like this to you, don't take it personally.  Just know that no matter what anyone says, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Just the way you are. Without makeup (gasp) without any of the glam (double gasp). Please believe that. This is coming from the mouth (or fingertips) of a diva. I am all about the glam and looking fabulous but I also love natural beauty, there's nothing sweeter than a fresh face and messy hair.

                            #nomakeupselfie #nofilter (Not a basic bitch)

Peace&Love
Shelly xo

Cherish your time

I want to share with you guys something that I learned recently...

You should always cherish your time.

I have been super busy lately. (hence, why there haven't been any blog posts) Between working full time, being a mommy and my crazy life I barely have room to breathe. My free time has been pretty limited, which might sound kind of lame but its been a really good thing. 

It's taught me to appreciate my time more and to have higher standards when it comes to how I spend it. I think more highly of myself and my time now.

It's also improved the quality of my friendships. Since I don't have a lot of time to hang out with my friends, I had to weed out the ones who aren't good for me or the ones that should have been gone years ago. I no longer waste my time on negative people, those who lack motivation or who try to hold me back. Now I only spend time with people who are positive, goal driven, and those that inspire me. I can't settle for less than that; My time is too precious to me. If I'm going to give someone three hours of my life it has to be beneficial for me as well as them. There has to be common ground and I have to leave them feeling as though we gained something from the experience. Otherwise, it was a just a waste. I'm a go-getter and a do-er, so the people I hang out with have to be too, otherwise it just feels like we have nothing in common and there's not a whole lot we can share.

Have you ever heard of the saying? "You are who your friends are." That statement couldn't be more true. We tend to look for others that reflect us or want the same things out of life as us.
So take a close look at your friends, are they people you look up to? Do you think your friends are going places? If you're friends are lazy and unmotivated chances are you are too.

Don't think of it as being snobby, think of it as having respect for yourself and your time.

Tax office problems

I got a new job, yayy!! It fucking sucks, boo!

In all seriousness though, it has been hell for me. The job description itself is fine. I am the receptionist in a nice tax office. I get to dress up everyday, it allows me time to blog and my coworkers are pretty cool. So the job itself is not bad, the problem is whats happening while I am working. 

It's ninty-something degrees in there. Everyone is sweating, the office smells like butt and to top it all off I keep getting chased by bees! Allow me to elaborate.

Why is it so hot in a tax office? Basically, some moron climbed onto our roof and stole the copper out of our AC; We're stuck using little table fans to cool off the entire office. It's a fucking sauna in there. Even though its still winter, this is Florida, its in the upper 80's and the office is in the 90's.

People are so miserable and they're constantly telling me about their sweaty bits. Yesterday I got to hear about two different people's sweaty armpits and another's sweaty thighs. Not the visuals I needed actually.

I try to always look and dress nice, especially when I'm at work.

#selfie #werkk

Unfortunately It's not possible to look like that when your office is located deep in the pits of hell.

Luckily for me I have honest coworkers, who tell it like it is. & I quote:  

"Ooh Shelly, you don't look too good, you look like a wet dish rag." 

What am I supposed to do with that?! I look like a wet dish rag? Let me think, I've never seen a wet dish rag that I thought looked beautiful, so that leads me to believe I look like shit. Which is great for my confidence! Haha! And since I already feel like shit, I might as well look like shit. 

Next is the smell *Shivers* It smells like a gym locker room in there. I've tried using deodorizing sprays but all that does is make it smell like flowers & butt. It's really not fooling anyone and I can only hope they don't think the bad smell is coming from me.

To make matters worse, I keep getting chased by bees. Why? Because we have to leave the door open in order to get a breeze in there & I'm doused in perfume.  

I don't care where I am or who I am with, if a bee comes near me I will scream and I will run around like a crazy bitch. That's how I roll. I'm sure its hilarious to others, but I'm not the one who's going to get stung.

TL;DR?

My days at work consist of:

Thank you for taking the time to read my rant! I love you for it.

Peace & Love

Shelly xo

Outfit of the day: Black & White Geo Midi

#OOTD turned into #OOTN

Let me just say, I absolutely love  this look.

You might not know this, but I'm only 5'1.

Yup, I'm fun size. 

So when I ordered it online naturally, I was a little nervous that the length of the dress 

would make me look stumpy.

Just the opposite it actually elongates my figure.

 I am so in love with midis & I want more.

& I wasn't too sure if I liked how busy the dress was... 

However once it arrived, I fell totally in love with it.

It's conservative and classy, yet sexy.

I wore it to work today with a blazer & everyone loved it.

It's a great day time to night time dress. 

Just pair it with different shoes & accessories  & it's a whole new look.

 Of course there's always room for silliness ;) 

Can you believe I still don't know how to properly cross my eyes?! 

I need to work on that. Priorities

As always...

Peace & Love

Shelly xo

You don't have to go to college

I love learning and I strongly believe that everyone should get a good education. However I don't think everyone should or needs to get a college degree. 

A college degree isnt everything; It's not the be all, end all of careers. 

There's so much more to life than going to school. 

Do what you love, right now; You'll never be this young again. & I mean that for everyone young or old. 

If you want to go to school, then by all means I support that. But its also OK to not go. It's OK to go a different route.  If you're passionate about the arts, pursue it. It doesn't require a degree; It requires your soul. People seem to think that going to school gives you the title of whatever you want to be, but it doesn't; It gives you a piece of paper that says you know stuff on that subject.

It by no means makes you an expert.

How about first hand life experience? Don't just sit in a classroom and learn about others doing it, go out and do it yourself! 

It's 2014, if you want to be an expert on something all you have to do is look online; Do your own research. All the information you need is at your fingertips. You can Google it, you can search through blogs and forums, find DIY's or how to's. Start your own website using your new found expertise, share your own thoughts and ideas on it, write your own book.  If I was a job interviewer that would impress me more than a college degree. 

That is something to admire, because along the way you had your ups and downs; Your expertise comes from your trials and errors. That's real and I respect that. It came from you, it's not just something you're reciting from some outdated text book.

I don't need a degree to tell me who I am and neither do you.

You don't need a degree to follow your dreams.

Peace & Love

xo Shelly