10 Things to make you happy right now!

Life can get pretty crazy sometimes, but its important that even in chaos you remain happy. Yes some things are stressful, but stressing out about something doesn't fix it or make it go away. All it does is add to your problems, and it can even make you sick. So today I want to focus on things that make me happy and help me relax, and of course, I'll share them with you.

10.  Call or text your best friend.

9. Madlibs. Seriously, no one can be upset after reading the hilarious story they just created!

8. Have a cup of coffee. It gives you energy and perks you right up. Especially when you drink it out of a cute or sassy mug. ;)

Ok, so it doesn't really say "not shit" but it definitely should, cause that's what I'm doing today.

7. Dance. Turn up the music and dance like crazy. Jump around, booty pop, drop it like its hot, salsa, twerk, Gagnam Style and do some weird seizure thing when the bass drops. It doesn't matter how well you dance, just that you have fun. Music gets you pumped and excited & that's just what you need when your feeling down.

6. Give yourself a spa day! Mani, pedi, facial, hair treatment. The works, you've earned it & since you're doing it at home it won't cost you more than a few bucks. It's a great way to unwind. Not only are you treating yourself nicely but you're also going to look super cute afterwards. It's a twofer.  #selflove

5. Read. Forget all of your responsibilities and just get lost in a really good book. It doesn't matter what you read as long as you enjoy it. It could be something...

• Inspirational: Honestly, we could all use a new perspective.
• Informative: Learn something new. Educate yourself. You can never be too smart.
• Romantic: Who doesn't appreciate a passionate, cheesy love story every once in a while? #50shadesofdoesthisstoryeverend
•  Silly: Read something that make you laugh. I recommend Napalm & Silly Putty by George Carlin. Sarcasm is my kind of humor.

This is the book I'm getting lost in now.

4. Meditate.  It clears your mind and rids you of insecurities and anxiety. Anybody can do it. You don't need an instructor or a how to video. It's simply going within. (Did I mention it's free?)

"Quiet the mind and the soul will speak."
                           -Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

3. Watch a feel good movie. Mine is Mean Girls, yes I've seen it a thousand times, but its so fetch. Let's be honest, all the best quotes come from this movie. (Psst, It's on Netflix now!)

OMG Karen! You can't just ask people why they're white!

 
2.  Find a new hobby or activity you can do. A lot of the time when people think they're sad,  they're actually just bored and unstimulated. Try something new, you could join an improv group, volunteer in your community, go Geo Caching, go kayaking, take a hike, go skating, just do something.
 If you think there's nothing to do in your community, think again. Check out these great websites:

http://www.meetup.com/  
(Where you find all the groups in your area, go out there and make some new friends. Trust me, there's a group for everything)

http://www.geocaching.com/
"The real-world treasure hunt, that's happening right now, all around you."



1. Be happy. Happiness is a choice. Sometimes it doesn't just come to you. You have to work for it. Remember these wise words? Don't worry, be happy! Put on that beautiful smile, they're contagious and your happiness will spread to others.




Peace & Love
Shelly xox

I'd sacrifice you for a blog post.

Since I started blogging I see every moment or event as a possible blog post and every interaction with another is an opportunity for inspiration. For instance, even if someone is stupid, I'll still engage with them, because there's a chance that I'll get to write about it later. Sometimes I even put my self in awkward situations just to see what happens.

I really like that, I think I'll put it on a shirt.

So the other day I went shopping with Jutt and of course we headed to Charlotte Russe first. We're looking around at the dresses and this old lady makes eye contact with me and says loudly "OH MY GOD!" so I asked her if everything was OK? And then she went off...on Jutt.
"No everything is not OK! Men should never wear earrings! That is for women only! I just don't think its right. I'm sorry, but sometimes I just can't hold my tongue on this kind of thing. It disgusts me."

Here's the thing...I could have stopped her in her tracks and told her to mind her own business, but I found the situation interesting and I wanted to see where it was going. So instead, I egged her on. I couldn't help myself. It was just too perfect, some 90 year old woman completely disgusted and offended by Jutt's earholes. She's freaking out, he's laughing hysterically and I'm giving her words of encouragement.

So after its all over, Jutt walks over to me and says..."What was all that about?" I can't decide if he means the sweet old lady or me helping her tear him apart. So I responded with "I'd sacrifice you for a blog post." It's true. I'll sacrifice anyone for a blog post, including myself. If I think there's even a remote chance that something worth writing about will happen, I'll stick around.

If you're my friend or even if you're not, this is your warning. Every interaction with me is a possible blog post and no one is safe.

Peace&Love

Shelly xo

Natural Beauty

For the most part I wear makeup everyday. I wear it because I'm a girly girl. It makes me feel sexy and it's something that I'm really passionate about. However, I don't feel as though I need the makeup to look beautiful. Not at all, I feel beautiful without it. So sometimes I just don't wear any.

Well a few weeks ago I went to a kid's birthday party, and I decided not to wear any makeup. After all it was at the park and I didn't think all the glam would be necessary.

No big deal, until my friend says...

"You look like you don't feel too good, and you look tired." Whoa! That was a slap to face, especially considering I felt fine, I wasn't tired and I was enjoying myself. At this point I had two options. I could either tell her I feel fine and that the reason why I look different is because I'm not wearing makeup (which is the truth, but might make her feel bad) Or I can lie and say I don't feel all that well. (which after her comment, isn't so much of a lie anymore) So thats exactly what I did, I lied. I said I didn't feel well and then I left.

Honestly, I was hurt by what my friend said, I thought that was so rude, but I also felt sympathy for her. I didn't want to make her feel bad for her ignorance. Later I found myself crying about it & I felt silly. Why did that hurt my feelings? She was obviously not trying to hurt me, she just doesn't know any better. She doesn't understand that what she said had hurt my feelings. I sat for a while and thought...Is that what people think when they see me without makeup? That I look sick and tired? Which is a terrible thought, because I am neither of those. I am healthy, happy and full of life. Then I looked in the mirror and saw a beautiful face, a beautiful smile and a beautiful soul. So why should someone's stupid remark make me feel insecure?

My beauty shines through whether I'm all glammed up or going all natural. So that brings me to the next question... Why did that shake me up so badly? I think its because up until three years ago, I didn't really wear makeup, ever. People used to see my face every day and no one ever said anything negative about it.  No one ever said I look tired, no one ever said I looked sick. However, now everyone is used to seeing me all dolled up, so when I'm not, they instantly think something is wrong.

To me it's so obvious that you should never comment on a woman's looks, unless you are doing so in a positive way. You don't comment on her weight, her looks, or her age. Those are just things you don't do and I thought that was understood by everyone, but apparently not.
So for those of you out there who are thinking about commenting on a woman's look in a negative way, think twice.

1. You come off as rude or uneducated.

2. You might hurt their feelings and make them doubt their self.
Just put yourself in their position, if someone were saying that to you would it make you feel good? If the answer is yes, then say it... if not then hold your tongue.

If you are a woman and someone has made comment like this to you, don't take it personally.  Just know that no matter what anyone says, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Just the way you are. Without makeup (gasp) without any of the glam (double gasp). Please believe that. This is coming from the mouth (or fingertips) of a diva. I am all about the glam and looking fabulous but I also love natural beauty, there's nothing sweeter than a fresh face and messy hair.

                            #nomakeupselfie #nofilter (Not a basic bitch)

Peace&Love
Shelly xo

Cherish your time

I want to share with you guys something that I learned recently...

You should always cherish your time.

I have been super busy lately. (hence, why there haven't been any blog posts) Between working full time, being a mommy and my crazy life I barely have room to breathe. My free time has been pretty limited, which might sound kind of lame but its been a really good thing. 

It's taught me to appreciate my time more and to have higher standards when it comes to how I spend it. I think more highly of myself and my time now.

It's also improved the quality of my friendships. Since I don't have a lot of time to hang out with my friends, I had to weed out the ones who aren't good for me or the ones that should have been gone years ago. I no longer waste my time on negative people, those who lack motivation or who try to hold me back. Now I only spend time with people who are positive, goal driven, and those that inspire me. I can't settle for less than that; My time is too precious to me. If I'm going to give someone three hours of my life it has to be beneficial for me as well as them. There has to be common ground and I have to leave them feeling as though we gained something from the experience. Otherwise, it was a just a waste. I'm a go-getter and a do-er, so the people I hang out with have to be too, otherwise it just feels like we have nothing in common and there's not a whole lot we can share.

Have you ever heard of the saying? "You are who your friends are." That statement couldn't be more true. We tend to look for others that reflect us or want the same things out of life as us.
So take a close look at your friends, are they people you look up to? Do you think your friends are going places? If you're friends are lazy and unmotivated chances are you are too.

Don't think of it as being snobby, think of it as having respect for yourself and your time.

Tax office problems

I got a new job, yayy!! It fucking sucks, boo!

In all seriousness though, it has been hell for me. The job description itself is fine. I am the receptionist in a nice tax office. I get to dress up everyday, it allows me time to blog and my coworkers are pretty cool. So the job itself is not bad, the problem is whats happening while I am working. 

It's ninty-something degrees in there. Everyone is sweating, the office smells like butt and to top it all off I keep getting chased by bees! Allow me to elaborate.

Why is it so hot in a tax office? Basically, some moron climbed onto our roof and stole the copper out of our AC; We're stuck using little table fans to cool off the entire office. It's a fucking sauna in there. Even though its still winter, this is Florida, its in the upper 80's and the office is in the 90's.

People are so miserable and they're constantly telling me about their sweaty bits. Yesterday I got to hear about two different people's sweaty armpits and another's sweaty thighs. Not the visuals I needed actually.

I try to always look and dress nice, especially when I'm at work.

#selfie #werkk

Unfortunately It's not possible to look like that when your office is located deep in the pits of hell.

Luckily for me I have honest coworkers, who tell it like it is. & I quote:  

"Ooh Shelly, you don't look too good, you look like a wet dish rag." 

What am I supposed to do with that?! I look like a wet dish rag? Let me think, I've never seen a wet dish rag that I thought looked beautiful, so that leads me to believe I look like shit. Which is great for my confidence! Haha! And since I already feel like shit, I might as well look like shit. 

Next is the smell *Shivers* It smells like a gym locker room in there. I've tried using deodorizing sprays but all that does is make it smell like flowers & butt. It's really not fooling anyone and I can only hope they don't think the bad smell is coming from me.

To make matters worse, I keep getting chased by bees. Why? Because we have to leave the door open in order to get a breeze in there & I'm doused in perfume.  

I don't care where I am or who I am with, if a bee comes near me I will scream and I will run around like a crazy bitch. That's how I roll. I'm sure its hilarious to others, but I'm not the one who's going to get stung.

TL;DR?

My days at work consist of:

Thank you for taking the time to read my rant! I love you for it.

Peace & Love

Shelly xo

Outfit of the day: Black & White Geo Midi

#OOTD turned into #OOTN

Let me just say, I absolutely love  this look.

You might not know this, but I'm only 5'1.

Yup, I'm fun size. 

So when I ordered it online naturally, I was a little nervous that the length of the dress 

would make me look stumpy.

Just the opposite it actually elongates my figure.

 I am so in love with midis & I want more.

& I wasn't too sure if I liked how busy the dress was... 

However once it arrived, I fell totally in love with it.

It's conservative and classy, yet sexy.

I wore it to work today with a blazer & everyone loved it.

It's a great day time to night time dress. 

Just pair it with different shoes & accessories  & it's a whole new look.

 Of course there's always room for silliness ;) 

Can you believe I still don't know how to properly cross my eyes?! 

I need to work on that. Priorities

As always...

Peace & Love

Shelly xo

You don't have to go to college

I love learning and I strongly believe that everyone should get a good education. However I don't think everyone should or needs to get a college degree. 

A college degree isnt everything; It's not the be all, end all of careers. 

There's so much more to life than going to school. 

Do what you love, right now; You'll never be this young again. & I mean that for everyone young or old. 

If you want to go to school, then by all means I support that. But its also OK to not go. It's OK to go a different route.  If you're passionate about the arts, pursue it. It doesn't require a degree; It requires your soul. People seem to think that going to school gives you the title of whatever you want to be, but it doesn't; It gives you a piece of paper that says you know stuff on that subject.

It by no means makes you an expert.

How about first hand life experience? Don't just sit in a classroom and learn about others doing it, go out and do it yourself! 

It's 2014, if you want to be an expert on something all you have to do is look online; Do your own research. All the information you need is at your fingertips. You can Google it, you can search through blogs and forums, find DIY's or how to's. Start your own website using your new found expertise, share your own thoughts and ideas on it, write your own book.  If I was a job interviewer that would impress me more than a college degree. 

That is something to admire, because along the way you had your ups and downs; Your expertise comes from your trials and errors. That's real and I respect that. It came from you, it's not just something you're reciting from some outdated text book.

I don't need a degree to tell me who I am and neither do you.

You don't need a degree to follow your dreams.

Peace & Love

xo Shelly

Basic bitches

Today's phrase of the day is: Basic Bitch  

What's a basic bitch? Well Urban Dictionary describes it as...

                             

                            Basic Bitch

1) one who has no personality; dull and irrelevant

Basically to me a basic bitch is an unoriginal, boring person, who hates on other people's success or looks. A basic bitch can be either female or male. They tend to be boring and unimaginative, with closed minds and bitter hearts. They aren't really doing anything with their lives, and they spend their time hating on people that are. They are rude and hateful. They hate on the beautiful, on the successful, the courageous, the dreamers and the do-ers.

They can usually be found creeping on your facebook page. They'll never like your stuff, but they will talk shit about it and obsess over it for days!

All pissed off like..

"OMG babe! Did you see the picture Rachel posted?! She thinks she so hot, but she is such a hoe. Ew. I think thats cellulite, see? If you zoom in you can tell she totally tried to photoshop it. Her makeup is always perfect, she must be so insecure."

"Did you see Brian's new Hummer? I'm not saying he has a small dick, but he's overcompensating for something. What a tool. *cough* small dick."

"Kirsten changed her work to "freelance writer", more like freelance LOSER. I mean, come on get a real job. HA! She thinks she's gonna make it big."

Being a basic bitch is one of the worst things you can be. Why waste your time and energy on jealousy and petty behaviour? Grow up, don't you have something better to do? Your own aspirations? Don't you want to stand out? Don't be a plain Jane. Go out there and be the best you that you can be! Don't waste your time being a basic bitch, and never let a basic bitch bring you down to their level. If you want to dream big and dress like a rock star, do it. You don't need anyone's approval to be fabulous. 

Too fab to be basic. 

How to spot a basic bitch...

1. No sense of personal style, they'll just wear whatever is safe. Never flashy or eye catching. They don't want to stand out. (but they're quick to make fun of others who do)

2. They have no career goals. They aren't striving to be great, they don't plan on doing anything amazing. Working a dead end job with no plan of ever doing anything with their life.

3. A basic bitch will sit at home, looking sloppy as fuck and talk shit about the girl who is out doing something with her life & looking fly while doing it.

Their favorite phrases?

"I don't need makeup, I'm naturally beautiful." 

"She dresses like that for attention."

"She's such a ho."

   They're just sitting on facebook all day quoting Drake songs... 

 Basic bitches? 

Fuck basic bitches, be fabulous. 

Peace&Love

Shelly xo

Why you shouldn't spank your kids

I don’t believe in spanking, I believe in parenting.

The thing with parenting is that it’s a commitment, the most serious commitment you can make. You commit yourself to loving another human 100% unconditionally, you commit to protecting them, you commit to their happiness, you commit to their future, you commit to making sure they live the best life possible. So you have to think ahead, because parenting is such a delicate thing, if you don’t believe me, go ahead and tell me your parents didn’t fuck you up a little? Just a little, but they did.

“People always say things like: 

“If that was my kid I would have spanked them a long time ago.” 

“Spare the rod, spoil the child.”

Ew, you can even hear the hate in their voice when they say it. It’s sad really.

To those people I want to say…Why? Why would you want to hurt your child? To hit them? You seriously want to hit your kid to get your point across? Are you stupid? What’s wrong with you? Can’t you communicate? You’re an adult. We learned hitting others was wrong a long time ago, we learned to talk about things or to walk away. Hello? That would be a human being that you're hitting. Kids don’t know better, they’re not done developing yet, they're still learning everything. It took you a long time to learn wrong from right, and apparently you still have a lot to learn, because you don’t know how to communicate without hitting or intimidating.

If a husband slapped his wife around  for not listening to him, I would hope that she would call the cops and leave him. But guess what, that child doesn’t have that choice. That child looks to you for love, for compassion, to teach them wrong from right, but to do it in a loving way. They can’t walk away, they need you to survive. They need you to love and protect and teach them. In case you haven’t realized that’s what it means to be a parent. They didn’t get choose to you, you choose to have them. 

This time is crucial for them. Their like little sponges just taking it all in. Just like you did when you were little. Do you remember the fear you felt? Do you remember how bad that hurt, and how sad it made you feel that someone you love so much could hurt you like that? Do you remember feeling unloved? I do. & the reason I know this is because I can’t write this without crying. Not for me, but for the kids out there going through the same thing we did.

People seem to forget those feelings, they forget that were sad, hurt and scared. They just look at who they are now & they say “I’m disciplined because my parents spanked me.” But that’s not true, you were still that little trouble maker whether you got spanked or not. Them spanking you did nothing to change that. Time did, its called growing up. It happens to all of us, everyone at different times. You aren’t a rotten brat, because you got older. You learned this with time and age. It wasn’t those terrifying beatings that shaped you, all they did was hurt you and that’s all it does to your kids. 

But you know what? We don’t have to make the same mistakes our parents did. We don’t have to pass that on. We can choose to be smarter, kinder and more loving. We can choose words over hitting.  Our eyes are open to that ignorance now, 

we break the cycle. 

Let us be the generation that doesn’t fuck up their kids!!!

 Timeouts work wonders for us, and that’s our last resort. Because we will explain the same things to Gisele over and over and over again until she fully understands. That’s all you have to do.

 Guess what? It works, she understands so much!  She is so well behaved, she doesn’t throw tantrums, she doesn't kick and scream to get what she wants. 

You know what she said to me the other day? “Ok, we’ll see. Maybe I can have it, maybe I can’t, but even if I can’t I’m not going to cry. I’m a big girl.” Yes, that came out of my 4 year olds mouth!!! She’s brilliant, she’s sweet and you know what? She’s not afraid of me & she shouldn’t be. I’m her mommy, her superhero, her best friend, and her teacher. Not some big bully who hurts her. 

So to those of you out there hitting your kids, pick up a book, educate yourself, get some therapy and break the cycle.

Peace&Love

Shelly xo

Be your own best friend

A best friend is someone one you cherish very much, someone you respect and whose opinion you value. Someone you can trust to have your best interest at heart, and vise versa.

So who better to be your best friend than you? No one knows you better.

It breaks my heart to hear my friends say such negative things about themselves.

"I'm stupid." 

"I'm so fat." 

"Don't take my picture, I look ugly."  

Why is it so easy to love others unconditionally and accept their flaws but yet so hard to do with yourself. Things you'd easily overlook for a friend are the same things you tear yourself up about.

If your friend gained ten pounds would you say mean things to her? Would you call her fat? Would you think any less of her? No, of course you wouldn't. You love her, she's a beautiful person and her weight does not define her. Fair enough, but God forbid you gain ten pounds. You freak out. How could you let this happen?! You pinch at your stomach and call yourself fat. That's hurtful, you'd never do to your best friend. But you're quick to do it yourself, without second thought.

Why are we so hard on ourselves? We're human too, we make mistakes just like everybody else, we aren't perfect.

You have to learn to love your imperfections, those little things that make you, you. Your quirks, your crooked smile, your sarcasm, or your awkwardness. Whatever makes you different is what makes you, you. And that is what makes you beautiful. 

Be-you-tiful. 

If there is something you don't like about yourself, fix it if possible and if not then accept it and move on with your life.

This is your soul, this is your body and you are stuck with it for the rest of your life. So accept it and learn to love it unconditionally. Say it with me... "I am beautiful, I am smart, I am good enough." Say it every day, even if at first you don't believe it. Say it, but say it with meaning.

Think of it this way, you probably think pretty highly of your friends. You think they're pretty, they're smart, they're cool. Now turn around and look at it through your friend's eyes. They think you're pretty, you're smart and you're cool. Thats why they wanted to be your friend in the first place. 

Give yourself a chance and you might find that you're pretty awesome.

Peace&Love

Shelly xo

So picture this...

My blog definitely needed more pictures.

So Sunday I set out to do just that, take some awesome pictures for my bliggety blog. ;)  

 I spent two hours getting ready, I charged my Canon, packed extra outfits, brought my personal photographer (aka Jutt)  and drove 45 minutes to a beautiful location. 

Obviously, I was very excited. 

Obligatory selfie on the way to the shoot. 

 So we get there and its a little wet, but theres no way I'm letting anything get in the way of my shoot. I tiptoe around all the puddles, find the perfect spot & strike a cute pose...

OH SNAP! Guess who forgot to bring the SD Card?

Yup, that would be me. :( ..Story of my life.

However, I was already there and dressed so we decided we might as well have a little fun. So instead of my Canon we used his Galaxy Note III  (its 13 megapixels...so basically, its not a Canon)

I actually really like this one. 

Did you notice my nails were two different shades of blue? Totally on purpose...

Lets go sit on this rail thing...

Look at that awesome balance, so graceful...

Ok, maybe not.

Anyways, that was my Sunday. I may have not gotten the pictures I wanted, but I did have a good time. So hopefully there's a lesson in there somewhere..

Maybe next week??

Peace&Love

Shelly xo

Too Long; Didn't Read

I love acronyms. LOL! WTF? OMG! I use them all the time, I'm even guilty of saying them IRL. (I know I'm a dork, whatever.) There is one acronym however that I can't stand... 

TL;DR - too long; didn't read.

Its the go to response for internet trolls. Normally trolls don't bother me, but tl;dr just pisses me off.

"Too long; didn't read" more like "too stupid; couldn't comprehend" 

Its basically a big "fuck you!" to whoever its aimed at. 

Its saying one of three things:

1. They couldn't come up with a witty response.

2. They don't find you have to say important. 

3. Reading? Ain't nobody got time fo dat.

I really hope its never #3 because I love reading & writing and there should always be time fo dat.

Its just rude. Its a quick little rude jab. Its effective but it doesn't make the person using it sound clever or witty, instead  it makes them sound like a D-bag.
(remember kids, you never want to be a bag of D)

tl;dr - fuck off. 

Peace&Love
Shelly xo

Believe in yourself

If you can believe it you can achieve it. The possibilities are endless, and it all starts with you. I know this to be true. 

Follow your dreams, if you dream of being an artist, be that artist, start painting. Having a big fancy degree or studio doesn’t make you an artist, your love for art and your creations do. That’s the biggest misconception, that you need certain things to do what you want. All you need is yourself and hard work.

No one was born with a title :doctor, Olympian, artist, writer, cook, ballerina, NASCAR driver, everyone had to start at the bottom and worked their way up. They didn’t settle, they followed their dreams. They worked hard, they busted their ass, and trust me they failed a few times, but they didn't give up. 

These  people that  you look up to, this dream job that you want. You can have it, there’s no reason why you cant. I believe that’s true for everyone, you need to learn a new skill for this? You need to go to school for this? Then do it, do whatever it takes. 

Why? Because that is what life is about, its about living and if you’re spending 40 hours a week hating your life at 9 dollars an hour…are you really living? 

This goes for everything not just your career, if you can believe it you can achieve it.

Another big thing is weight loss, its hard to lose weight. Of course its hard , its certainly a lot harder to lose weight than it is to gain weight or to do nothing about it. No one wants to have to work for anything anymore, everyone wants the easy way (aka diet pills, surgery, magic weight loss dust) it takes effort to lose weight, it takes hard work.  

Once people decide they want to be skinny, they get upset that they aren’t skinny. Going to the gym one time isn’t going to get you a six pack. Great things are worth waiting for and working hard for. Some people never start because they think it will take forever. Trust me one day you’ll get there and you’ll realize that forever was only a few years & now you’re there.

You have to be dedicated to it, you’re going to have to want it bad enough.

If your goal is to lose weight then you need to do something about it. “I want something, I deserve something” No. If you want something, you work for it. You earn it. You don’t deserve it anymore or any less than anyone else. You have to work for what you want, or be willing to settle for less.

“To want” is the ego talking. “I want to be skinny” “I want to be rich” “I want to be successful” It's not enough to want something, you have to work hard to achieve your goals, so that you can have exactly what you want (and deserve) and I promise you, that you can.

 The key to not giving up is to stay motivated. Motivation is hard to keep sometimes, especially when you’ve already had a setback. 

You only fail if you quit. It you keep trying, you’re destined for success. 

Remember, there is no age limit or time limit on your dreams. 

                                                            

One of the worst things people can to unmotivated themselves, is to compare themselves to others. The reason for that is most likely that you’re comparing yourself to someone who’s successful in what it is you’re trying to achieve, because that’s who we look up to; people who have already reached our goals. 

It's ok to admire them, but you cant  compare yourself to them, because you’re not on their level. (all that is going to do it discourage you and make you feel less adequate)  They worked really hard and long to get to where they are. They didn’t have the success overnight.  They had to learn new skills, try new things, fall a few times, get back up, deal with the ups and down. That’s what gave them the confidence and knowledge they have now. If they had quit the first time something didn’t work out for them, they wouldn’t be where they are now. 

Now its your turn, believe in yourself and go out there and work for it! You’re worth it.

Peace&Love

Shelly xo

Follow your dreams...

You can do anything you want, or be anyone you want to be.  All you have to do is believe in yourself and follow your dreams.

Dream big, dream HUGE, dream out of this fucking world. Dream those dreams they told you, you shouldn’t dream. If you want to be a model, then be a model, if you want to be an astronaut, then be a fucking astronaut! If you dream of being a pirate, then by all means, be a fucking pirate! Be whatever it is that you want to be. Even if you've been told before that you can't do this, or that its not realistic or “normal”. Do it.  Don't listen to anyone that tells you, "you can’t". No one is more capable than you and no one is more deserving of happiness than you. You have every right to follow your dreams, and its in your hands to make them a reality.

Don't let excuses get in your way and don't let life and its problems keep you from achieving your dreams.

Life is about adventure and excitement. Sometimes people forget that because they get so caught up in the 9-5 work routine.
They get up, put up with crap for 9 hours, go home and then do it all again the next day. It's mundane and miserable and after so long it becomes their life. They think that’s all there is and they settle. They forget to play and learn and explore and be happy.

I'm not saying quit your job, I know all about bills and responsibilities. I’m saying, don't settle, work towards achieving your goals, so that one day you can quit your job and do exactly what you want.

Figure out what it is that would make you happiest in this world, then do it. No matter how crazy or far fetched it may sound. Write it down. Has it been done before? Do some research, figure out what steps you need to take to get started. Get inspired, look up people who have successfully done this and get some perspective, take notes.

What if what you want to do has never been done before?
You have a brain, use your  imagination. Create something new. Creativity is your best friend.
Thomas Edison wanted to see better in the dark, so he invented the light bulb. He didn't’t sit around thinking it was impossible, just because no one else had done it. He imagined it and made it happen. It took him a lot of tries, and there were a lot of “not light bulbs” but that’s part of the learning process. So don't be afraid of getting something wrong, just take notes and try it differently the next time.
Channel your inner Thomas Edison. He said, “I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 things that won't work.” Pure genius.
It takes time, be patient & respect your struggles. Your struggle is a part of the journey, its how you learn, and it gives you strength.

Following your dreams isn’t easy. If it was easy everyone would do it. It requires a lot of hard work and commitment. Its a 100% kind of thing. There is no half assed way of following your dreams. You have to believe you can do it and then do whatever is necessary to make it happen.

Even if you work 9-5 and you're exhausted when you get home and you just want to veg out on the couch and eat cold pizza till you pass out, YOU GET YOUR TIRED ASS UP! Do some extra research, sweat a little... greatness requires sacrifice. Do what it takes. Its not always going to be easy, but if your dreams are worth it to you, you’ll find a way to make it happen.
That being said, not everything you do towards your goals have to be a huge, every little thing  counts and it all adds to that big picture.

Start right now, there is no better moment, start now and I promise you in a year you'll think back to this defining moment and you'll thank yourself. There is no such thing as “too late to follow your dreams.” That is just ridiculous, happiness does not have an age limit.


Remember to enjoy the journey, because following your dreams should be a
joyful thing, not a chore. That’s all for now, hope this served as a little inspiration for you guys and I wish you all the best.


Peace&Love
Shelly xo

Mad Libs Monday!

Ok guys I am so excited to start Mad Libs Monday!!! So excited in fact that I'm starting on a Thursday. Haha, oh well. The idea was given to me by my awesome friend John, thanks John, like a boulder; you rock! 

In case you've been living under a rock this whole time and don't know what Mad Libs are I shall explain: Mad Libs is a book that consists of short stories with specific words blanked out: adjectives, adverbs, nouns, verbs, etc.. . and basically what you do is fill the blanks and read the now hilarious story. 

My friends and I are big fans of getting wasted and filling these out. So many great one liners have come from this, stuff we quote regularly. I'm going to share a few Mad Libs with you every Monday (or you know...Thursday if I forget. haha)

"Afraid Of The Dark"

I was home alone and scared out of my Bing Chowders. I could hear the wind face fucking, and off in the distance an elephant vagina was howling. I crossed the room, locked the shoelace, and climbed into bed, pulling the Pokemons over my smooth silky thighs. Then it happened. I could hear Helen Keller cock slapping up the stairs. My pubes started to chatter and my knees began bicycling. The stirrups was thrust open and there was a huge kitty anus with hair all over his gooch. It was my father. "Hi, we're home," he said ferociously. "Hope you weren't afraid of staying home alone." "No," I said, lying through my toes. 


 "Little Red Riding Hood"

One day, Little Purple Riding Hood was going through the forest carrying a basket of 
genitals for her grandmother. Suddenly, she met a big foamy wolf. "Algebraic!" Said the wolf. "Where are you going, little Gobble Snap?"  "I'm going to my grandmother's house,"
she said. Then the wolf fucked away. When Miss Riding Hood got to her grandmother's
 house, the world was in bed dressed like her grandmother. "My, Grandmother," she said. "What big feces you have." "The better to pimp slap you with," said the wolf. "And Grandmother," she said, "what big hobos you have." The wolf said, the better to vomit you with." And then she said, "What big bull testicles you have, Grandmother." But the wolf said nothing. He had just died of indigestion from eating Grandmother.





Peace&Love 
Shelly xo

                                

Makeup is an art

I love makeup; Its art, its tribal. It's beautiful.

Every girl should feel beautiful every day, with or without makeup.

Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved makeup. 

Back then I was just a curious little girl playing around mommy's makeup. 

Actually the only thing that has changed is that I can now buy my own makeup.  

I love dolling up my girlfriends.

 (guys too, I just haven't had any takers yet)

                     

          With makeup your style is constantly changing, so its very hard for it to get boring.
Even now, as I'm looking at these pictures my style of makeup has changed quite a bit since then. 

                             

   Makeup is meant to enhance your natural beauty. Every girl (or boy) is beautiful, every face offers a new look. Beauty isn't just one look; Beauty is unique. 



"I'm not beautiful like you, I'm beautiful like me."
                                                      -Unknown

                     

                                       

I'm definitely considering freelance makeup artistry as a possible career choice. 

Theres just so much I want to do. 

We'll see, but for now stay fabulous.

Peace&Love.

Shelly xo